Habits of highly effective people is a synopsis of the book I read sometime and I share & explain how they help.
It’s my eighth blog in the series and I have never thought so many of you would seriously read it every week. I am grateful to be born among such kind people who encourage me to write and read more. Because of the lockdown, I am doing work from home and get a little more time to read more and write more.
For today’s blog, I chose a very popular book called, “The 7 Habits of highly effective people”. I was always fascinated by its cover title, so I brought it but I never suggest you same. I read the book and summarised all the important points so that I can convey to you in a short span of time. Though it’s a very famous book, it is also time-consuming and a bit boring book. So, I don’t suggest you read it.
Here are the seven habits of highly effective people
I would explain each according to what I have read in the book.
First Habit: Be Proactive
Proactivity here means “as a human being, we are responsible for our lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.”
Highly proactive people do not blame circumstances, conditions for their own behavior. Their actions are the product of their own consciousness based on values rather than based on feelings.
Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and performance. While proactive people carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines, it makes no difference to them. So, be proactive.
Second Habit: Begin with the end in the mind
Imagine that you are dead and people are standing at your funeral. Imagine how would you like to be remembered by your parents, siblings, your partner, your friends, office, etc.
Everything is created twice, first in our conscious mind then in the real world. If we do not develop our own self-awareness and do not become responsible for our first creations, we empower other people and circumstances outside our circle of influence to shape much of our lives by default.
Third Habit: Put first thing first
Goethe says, “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least”. Simply means prioritizing.
Effective management is putting ‘first thing first’. While leadership decides what ‘first things’ are, it is management that puts them first day by day, moment by moment. Management is discipline, carrying it out while leadership is decision making.
Fourth Habit: Think Win-Win
Win/Win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefits in all human interactions. It means that agreements should be mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying, and presents life as a cooperative, not a competitive arena. Win/Win is a belief in the third alternative. It’s not your way or my way but a better way, a higher way.
Winning is not about winning over a person but the situation where both the parties win. That’s how you create a cooperative world, not a competitive world.
Fifth Habit: Seek first to understand then to be understood
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They’re either speaking or preparing to speak. They are filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their own biographies into other people’s lives.
Instead of projecting your own autobiography and assuming thoughts, feelings, motives, and interpretations, you should deal with reality inside another person’s head and heart. You must listen to understand. You should be focused on receiving the deep communication of another human soul.
Sixth Habit: Synergize
Synergy means the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. When you live together, you must learn to value the differences. Appreciating the differences is the essence of synergy – the mental, the emotional, the psychological differences between people. Family life provides many opportunities to observe synergy and to practice it.
Seventh Habit: Sharpen the Saw
“Sharpen the Saw” means exercising all four dimensions of our nature, regularly and consistently in wise and balanced ways. Those four dimensions of human nature are Physical, Mental, Spiritual, and Social dimensions of human life.
- Physical dimension: Excercise, Nutrition, Stress Management
- Mental dimension: Reading, Visualizing, Writing, Planning
- Spiritual dimension: Values, Commitment, Study and Meditation
- Social/Emotional dimension: Service, Empathy, Synergy.
I summarised this book for you. Though I don’t read many self-help books but I feel I should read one self-help book in every three to four months. Because we are humans, we need to recall and revise our own paradigms on which our lives are based.
“Understanding yourself is one of the greatest victories of our lives.”
Book of the month: The English Teacher by R.K Narayan (Fiction)
Movie of the month: Shikara (2020)
Thank you so much for your time.